I detest being told how to feel, on anything.
I’m the kind of person to cry in the middle of the mall if I feel like it, or laugh like a carefree loose woman during a church service.
At any point in time, I am deep within my Self and feeling all of it.
I recently went through [Am currently going through] some shit and what I realized was people try their hardest to stifle their emotions and expect you to do the same.
“Don’t cry…Deal with it..It’ll pass..You should forgive yourself for this..”
I’ve decided to detest all who’ve said these words to me.
I don’t believe people should comment on experiences they don’t understand. You don’t have shit to say.
When a woman loses her child, regardless of whether she knew she was expecting it or not, you have no right to tell her to “Just get over it and keep moving..It’ll pass.” Fuck you.
In fact, any traumatic experience should not be met with indifference.
I understand if people are uncomfortable with dealing with other people’s feelings. I do. Personally when people cry in front of me or breakdown, it makes me extremely uncomfortable, but I would never stop them from doing it because of how I feel. It’s not my time.
When someone attempts suicide and survives, the last thing they wanna hear is “You shouldn’t have done that..You’ll be fine. Why don’t you talk to us about it?” Do you understand that this person was on the brink of ending their lives? They went that far because they were fairly sure of it. Do you understand what it’s like to reach a point where nothing matters? Not even those you care about? And now you want them to “discuss” it? For them to bond with you? How do you expect them to verbalize it? Suicide is not something you decide on over night. It’s taken someone a while to get to that point and you think because YOU now noticed that there’s an issue things’ll change? Fuck you.
Nobody’s asking for sympathy. If it was desired, that would be stated.
I’m saying : Stop being an asshole.
If you do not understand someone’s struggle and are unable to sympathize, say nothing. Your 2 cents is worthless to someone in pain.
Your opinion on how things SHOULD be doesn’t mean shit.
People are hurting. In ways that you couldn’t fathom.
Why must they deal with their pain AND your insensitivity coupled with your stupidity?