There’s a man who drives around my neighborhood every Sunday and parks at random turns waiting for young girls to walk past. He’s old, foreign, has an odd looking beard and pulls off Creepy quite well.
I know because I’ve encountered him on too many occasions.
The first time, he was driving past my house and I was walking out. He drove past slowly,came back and asked me for directions. I gave them to him and he asked if I could accompany him. I declined and walked off. He followed me and asked if I’d like to get in his car and go where I was headed. I said no, he said it was unsafe, and I pointed out that it was 5 in the afternoon, I walked this way often and nothing had ever happened to me plus he doesn’t live in my neighborhood so he wouldn’t know. He got angry and drove off.
Now, as I mentioned, he’s here every Sunday. I’ve seen him try to pick up girls, and sometimes succeed. It saddens me every time a girl gets in his car because I can only imagine what follows. For all we know he could be a rapist, a child trafficker, whatever, we’ve already established that he’s a predator.
Yesterday as my mother and I were driving home, I saw him and pointed him out to her. I told her who he was and what he does and she said “Ee,well,he has his reasons.” I stared at her and looked outside the window.
What does that mean?
He has his reasons for trolling the neighborhood for young girls. So does that mean we should understand? Is it okay? What?
I was unable to respond to what she said because frankly, I don’t think anything she could have said to try and explain what she meant would have made a difference.
“It’s the girls. Why do they get in his car? Ba batlang? They enable him.”
This I understood. But at the same time, we need to take into account that some girls are genuinely naive. They aren’t as aware of the World’s evils as the rest of us. They actually assume that “Let me help you and drop you off where you’re going” means just that. And that’s not their fault. It’s a shame, but it’s not their fault.
The fact remains that sexual predators exist and it’s not as simple as “They exist because girls let them”. It’s not us, these people are this way on their own. It’s a fact that there are those who are willing to be a part of such people’s worlds and that’s on them, but saying “They only troll for girls because girls accept them” is ignorant.
It’s like “He only keeps raping students because they keep coming to his office after class”.
“She only keeps abusing them because they’re left in her care”.
The World will never be lacking in victims will it?
Nor those who blame the victims, it seems.