I’m yet to meet a person who announces to the world that they’re going to change their life and actually does. From drug addicts to layabouts, people pleasers to assholes, they all at some point proclaim “I’m done. From now on, there’s a new me” and I don’t know whether this New version of them malfunctions or it’s simply never created, but I’ve never encountered it.
Why people feel the need to proclaim their personal, internal changes to the world is beyond me. I guess in a society where we feel the need to share pictures of our food, the fact that we’re going to urinate and even that one is considering shaving, it was bound to come.
If eye rolling were an exercise, I’d have the fittest eyes around. I probably do it too often as I read these proclamations and promises to Future Selves, passive aggressive words heavy with urgency and defeat.
“From now on I no longer care what anyone else has to say. It’s about me now. I want to better myself and change into the person I’m meant to be.”
And that’s all good and well. Lovely.
But why tell the world what you won’t tell yourself?
I find more often than not, such people want affirmation and acknowledgement from others. Sometimes, simply, attention.
The “I quit drinking” every Sunday morning people.
The “I no longer want to have meaningless sex” and yet still having one night stands on the sly people.
The “From now on I’m gonna be confident” but I’m only saying that so you people acknowledge I said it people.
“You don’t get cookies for doing what you’re supposed to do.”
I don’t think people understand this.
You aren’t entitled to a standing ovation for bettering yourself as a person. Not for doing what’s best for yourself, no, you don’t.
I understand that for most people, they want some sort of reward for going through distress but honestly, even when it comes to doing something for yourself that you feel you’ll benefit from?
Why should your relationship with your Self include other people? See, this is where people get it wrong. We’re so busy being out of ourselves and in the world, whether on the internet or otherwise, that we forget that We are all we have.
That’s why we have people who can’t make a decision without someone else’s input, even if it’s a stranger.
That’s why we have those “Wanna dye my hair. Red or purple?” people.
Those “I want to sleep but I’m hungry. What do you think I should do guys?” people.
I feel these kinds of people are exactly like those who want to tell the world about their decision to do something that affects no one but themselves.
People who constantly ask for advice irk me. I feel like they make you responsible for their life and that, in my eyes, is not only disrespectful, it’s a lot of pressure that the next person doesn’t need. No one needs to be living someone else’s life on their behalf.
If you are one of these people I ask you, why?
How difficult is it to ask yourself about things that are only your business and see how you feel about it?
How difficult is it to be responsible to and for yourself?