Or should I say “How to get Society to label you a Ho?”
Let’s not pretend it’s not logical or even something some of us desire. Sometimes, you simply want the company and attention of more than one man, and you have the right to get what you want, no?
As women we aren’t all seeking to be wifed up and baking for The One. Life is like a box of chocolates, and so are men. You never know what you might get, but it’s up to you which ones you taste and swallow.
1. What Do You Want?
Do you want to “play the field” or are you seeking a partner to settle with? Do you simply enjoy feeling wanted? WHY do you want this? Knowing this is very important and will guide you when you reach a few snags along the way. It’s kind of like, starting the gym and having that one picture that reminds you exactly why you do this everyday. Except a lot less, mechanical and calculated.
2. How Do You Want It?
In the event that you’re in this for the fun of it, it’s quite important to remember that and never cross certain
emotional boundaries. If all you want out of someone is their company and possibly sex, avoid being the “I know we aren’t together but where were you last week I heard you were seen with a Lady” person. Of course you may feel territorial, it happens, but with enough suitors you’ll find it happens less and less.
If you’re seeking a partner, it’s a different process. Approach these men with the intent to learn about them before you’re ready to stick the “Boyfriend/Lover” label on them. Looks aren’t enough here, nor are basics manners. You can choose whomever you want , in no rush. Don’t feel the need to snag the prettiest man, or the funniest, even if you aren’t compatible.
Take the time to weigh your options.
Avoid men who want to shame you or box you in, period. These are decisions that you’re making about your Life based on your desires. Seek companions who respect that, and you.
You too should respect them and that they may be doing the same thing.
We’re all adults at this point and should feel free to lay expectations on the table. We don’t need to waste each other’s time nor drag people along who don’t understand nor feel comfortable on the ride.
Is the first “D” you should get. No one needs to know your business. Oftentimes one finds themselves sharing every sexual experience, date and glance with friends, and really, we don’t need to do this.
Granted, there are things you might want to share, and really feel free to. But not everything. It isn’t always necessary and it isn’t always advisable
5. Act like a Human Being, Think like a Human Being
This is not a mind game. The plan isn’t to have minions and sex slaves clamoring for your time and adoration.
I am not Steve Harvey and you are not stupid.
Rational, emotional human beings aren’t to be pulled into situations and treated like dirt.
You are always in control. You decide what you want, what you can handle and what you’d rather not have. The people in your Life are those who you’ve sought out and accepted. Keep this in mind and treat them accordingly.
7. The sex
Due to society looking down on a woman who lets ANY penis into her, you might find it hard to get intimate with these partners. I say in that case, think of this as a dance rather than a gangbang. You waltz with one dick here, twerk on another there.
A woman’s sexuality is only truly in her hands when she takes it back from society’s mold and reshapes it herself.
You can fuck them all if you want to.
At the same time, if they agree.
And that’s all you.
It won’t change the world.
It won’t bring back Jesus.
It simply will Be.
Who you choose to date, how and why is all up to you. The fact that people have an opinion on it doesn’t mean that they have a say in it. You have the right to know how many licks it takes to get to the center of the O, and what kind of different Licks exist, after sushi and wine.
And remember: Shame is an inherited emotion meant for ugly people.