“She doesn’t mean ‘no’, she means ‘convince me’.”

Why?

Because subconsciously/consciously they don’t respect us enough to believe we can or have the right to make our own decisions.

Because people say things like “When a girl is mad at you, grab her, pull her close and kiss her.”

Because no matter how old you are as a woman, someone will always refer to you as a girl. Someone to be governed and herded. Someone lacking autonomy.

This means that we live in the kind of society where you’re usually the last to have a say in anything involving you, as a woman.
And everyday, if not on the internet or on the streets, you’re reminded of this.

You’re reminded of the fact that to many, it’s a foreign concept to them that a woman can be and has the right to be assertive. That she has the right to own her body and they should respect that.

Lolita: On consent, rape culture and a woman’s autonomy

Something I wrote for ZaGossip.

Go here for the full article.

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