“You overlooking every nigga that ain’t quite ready,
To make it rain on you like about to break a levee,
Hold up, that pussy petty.
Yeah, your nails did, your hair did,
Your cell phone is selfish,It only got numbers that come with a Hummer..” – Kendrick Lamar, Memories Back Then
Is it really though? And if so, what’s wrong with that?
See, you can use your mind to get ahead in Life, that’s expected. You can use your name, it’s sometimes frowned upon but really, go ahead. You can use who you know, what you’ve seen or what you can do. But using your body, that’s downright sleazy.
A woman who only associates with wealthy men is considered a gold digger. Called a Ho, shallow, considered unintelligent, she disgusts many, is looked down upon and might as well be a prostitute according to them, she IS in their eyes, save for the street walking.
And I think that has got to be the silliest way of looking at it. The worst.
Why do people think these women are unintelligent/uneducated?
Possibly because back in the days when women were thought to not need an education, she “needed” a wealthy man for support. Maybe, to shame them for their choice, to make them appear as nothing but bodies, mindless, starving vixens. Obviously to make them appear as ones not deserving of respect because people would think they have nothing to offer.
These women are some of the strongest, smartest women in our society today. Who else can realize that they can use what they have to get what they want and actually follow through to live as they want despite the judgement and backlash?
Why should I be ashamed to use my body but proud to use my mind? I mean, other people can know what I know, but if I have the kind of body that draws attention and admirers, are you telling me that I should ignore that, and not couple it with my intellect, because you’ll judge me? It’s not happening.
“Say No to Struggle” A friend reminds me every time we’re together. Honey, does it make sense to capitalize on everything that you have except the one thing you always possess, that comes naturally?
No, this is not me telling women to actively seek out wealthy men, or to be escorts or sex workers, this is me telling them they have the right to, if they want to.
Asa Akira’s a porn star who absolutely adores her job. She gets paid to fuck and can take on as many men as she wants. You can tell she happily comes to work. Pun intended. I’ve never seen her even the least bit uncomfortable in her scenes.
“For as long as I can remember, I’ve been called a slut, a whore..All I know is, I’m insatiable.” -Asa
Skin Diamond too. Everyone she works with from actors and actresses to photographers say she’s a breeze to work with because she’s passionate about it. Isn’t that lovely?
Would you do it? I mean, we all love sex. Okay, most of us do. But if you have a passion for it, as a woman, would you? Other than the obvious, explaining to parents…blah blah blah..what else would hold you back? I know “What would people think?” is on that mental list. How does that make you feel? That you’d let something as trivial as opinions that would have nothing to do with your actual job keep you from pursuing it? Logic says that fear makes sense. What does Love say?
It’s your body.
You are your responsibility.
I tend to tell people that Shame is an inherited emotion. We feel ashamed because people tell us we should be and that’s not fair. If you insist, you have the right to tell me what’s appropriate in society, but you can’t tell me what’s appropriate for Me.
People still do though. Often. Passionately. I’ve found their voices aren’t as loud as my feelings and my conscience. I wish it was the same for others.
There’s no shame in doing what you want with what’s yours. It’s yours. Other people’s opinions are theirs. Don’t let them dictate what you do, they don’t know what you want nor need.