The most offensive things about cultural appropriation have to be the facts that
1. What is so important to you, is only a pretty/interesting thing that many don’t bother to look into or appreciate.
2. Because they don’t understand nor appreciate it, they turn it into a parody of what it actually is.
3. Someone will always make it seem like you’re overreacting.
I personally don’t believe that a man has to hit me to know that he shouldn’t. Nor do I believe that love is pain and everything about affection and human bonds needs to hurt. You either have to be a certain kind of broken person or an irrational romantic/masochist to be able to confidently say you would tell your own daughter to go back to a man who’s hit her because now he’s “learned his lesson”. Why does him learning his lesson have to involve ME getting bruised and stitched? Why does it have to take countless tears and counselling on my part for HIM to grow as a person?
Why does he have to disrespect me and hurt me to learn the meaning of respect, and even if it does, why should I go back to someone who can’t grasp the basic concepts of respect, communication and boundaries?
Harriet Tubman and a reminder that wealth, age and experience really don’t guarantee that one might be decent.
Some men don’t go down on women. Some prefer not to, and others have much more colourful [read: somewhat ridiculous ideas].
Here’s me dissecting their reasons why.